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God is Not Fair

A sermon based on Matthew 20:1-16

If Americans wrote this story today, it might go like this: Once upon a time God got up at the crack of dawn and called for workers. Everyone who was too lazy to get out of bed got nothing, and the people who worked all day got paid. First, God paid everyone by the hour, but some people complained because they had worked harder. Then God paid them by calories burned, but some people complained because they worked more efficiently. Then God paid them according to the number of leaves pruned, but some people complained because their tree didn’t have as many leaves. And they’re still there to this day, arguing with God over who deserves exactly how much pay. Because the important thing isn’t so much that I get paid, it’s that everyone else get paid less. The end.”

Rev. Doug Gray is the pastor at 2nd Congregational in Beloit, where I got my start. He has three beautiful kids, and whenever one of his kids says, “That’s not fair!” his answer is always the same. “Fare is what you pay for the bus.” He’s said it so many times that they roll their eyes and finish the phrase for him. God is not fair. And for that, we should be very, very grateful.

This story is a hard one, because Jesus never explains it. He just leaves it there for us to figure out. It starts normally enough, the boss gets up before dawn, and goes down to Home Depot to hire some help. He promises a denarius, which at the time of Jesus, was a standard day’s wage. If the story stopped there, the moral would be clear. God is fair.  Show up early, work hard, and you’ll have a good life.

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One Denarius. Original work by Ancient Art. Click the picture for more.


Some of you, I’d even say most of you, fit that story to a T. You’ve heard of the Paretto principle, right? That’s you. You are the 20% that do 80% of the work. I know because I see you. You work your tail off. You show up week after week. You volunteer for boards, and service projects and teams. You donate money even though things are tight. When the church needs something bought, you don’t go to the Trustees. You just go buy it. When the church needs something done, you don’t go to the Deacons. You just go do it.

I know… because this church would never have made it 150 years if it weren’t true. It’s what makes any church, but especially a small church, work. And honestly, you don’t get nearly the recognition you deserve. “Thank you” is the only pay we can offer as a church, and sometimes you don’t even get that. So thank you. Thank you for everything you do that no one ever sees. Thank you for giving even when it’s hard. Thank you to the faithful few who show up early and work all day.

But that’s not the end of the story. The landowner goes back down to Home Depot at 9am. The day has already started. They know they don’t deserve a full denarius. Instead, he promises to pay them whatever is fair. The story never says why they were late. Maybe they had a good reason, maybe they just overslept. Either way, it’s still early. There’s still plenty to do. So, off they go.

Maybe this is you. Maybe you didn’t feel comfortable with all those accolades, because you don’t feel you deserve them. You can’t make it to church every Sunday, you don’t have time to sit on a board, or you can’t afford to give. You just do what you can. There are a few here today, but where I run into this the most is around town. I can always tell, because they apologize, even though I’m not yelling.  All I have to do is exist, and people feel guilty. Because they’re not really apologizing to me.

If that’s you, then hear the good news in this story. You are welcome too. God’s kingdom is not just for super-saints. The-people-who-do-what-they-can still get a full day’s wage. There is good work to do here, necessary work that will bear fruit. Don’t let a misplaced sense of guilt stop you from doing what you can. And don’t ever let someone who’s been here longer get between you and God, or the work God has for you.

This is where it gets really interesting. The landowner goes out at noon, at three, and at five. Noon means no matter how fast they get there, they’re already doing less than half a day’s work. And five means they’re doing less than one hour of work before they go home. At this point, the landlord finally asks, ‘Why have you been standing here all day doing nothing?’  And they say, “Because no one hired us.” Which he knows is a lie because he’s was there at 6, at 9, at noon, at 3, and now at 5pm. They don’t have a job because they didn’t show up! But he just says, ‘You also go and work in my vineyard.’

One hour later, the foreman pays them. And the boss specifically says to pay the slackers first. Can’t you just see the early birds getting angrier and angrier? “I worked my tail off all day and I get the same as that schmuck who got up at the crack of noon? My shirt is sopping. He hasn’t even broken a sweat. That’s not fair!  And the boss says, “Fare is what you pay for the bus.”  Ok, not really. He says, “You’re getting exactly what you agreed to. As for the rest, it’s my money! Don’t I have the right to do what I want with my own money? Or are you jealous because I am generous?

The story is really about the landowner. This is someone who values people more than his own time and money. This is someone who sees the need we all have for meaningful work. This is someone who sees the kids who need to eat, even though their dad is a slacker. This is someone who sees past our failures to our potential, who would rather restore than judge. That’s the kind of God we serve.

Or maybe it’s about the ones who showed up late. God is happy to hire us, but we have to show up. You can come at 6, at 9, at noon, at 3, even at 5. But at some point the sun is going to set. We’ve been offered life and purpose, but we still have to accept it. God is happy to pay us more than we deserve, but we still have to do the work.

Those are all true and good, but I think it’s mostly a special message for the early birds, the amazing 20%, the faithful few who do most of the work. You have everything. Everything they lack, you already have. You have drive. You have purpose. Your life has meaning. You have good work and generous wages. Isn’t that enough? When will you finally stop worrying about what everyone else has and enjoy what you have? Why are you letting someone else decide when you get to be happy? Because friends, let’s face it. In our heart of hearts, we all showed up at 5.

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First preached at First Congregational Church of Saugatuck on September 18, 2011.

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9-11: Still Angry? Here’s Your Get Out of Guilt Free Card


Every time a preacher starts talking about forgiveness, someone says, “Oh yeah? What about Osama? What about Hitler? What about pedophiles?  You want me to forgive them?” For some of you, this is not theoretical. It’s personal. You’ve seen evil up close. Even thinking about having to forgive makes you hurt inside. So don’t. I’m giving you my personal pastoral get out of guilt free card. My pastor says I can hate one truly evil person for free. I will give it to you, if you give me this in return: most of life is not a facedown with evil. Most of life looks more like this comic from xkcd.xkcd: Duty Calls

Can we all agree that some things really are evil, but most things are not? So it’s not “How can you forgive the unforgivable?”  The real life question is, “How do we live with each other without strangling each other?”

Look at Peter’s question. He doesn’t ask, “How many times should I forgive Caesar?” He wants to know, “How many times do I have to forgive my brother or sister.” Not Hitler, not Osama. My brother or sister, my spouse, my fellow church member. How many times should I forgive them?  Which of course really means, “As a Christian, what’s the minimum number of times I have to give someone a pass before I can unload on them?”  The rabbis said three. So Peter is really stretching here. He knows Jesus takes this stuff seriously, so Peter takes the usual 3, doubles it, and adds one to get 7, the number of perfection. “How forgiving do we have to be, Jesus?  How about double plus one? That’ll show ‘em.”

And Jesus says what?  Not seven, but seventy times seven. You want to be perfect? Be perfect times perfect. Forgiveness is not a scorecard, it’s a way of life. It’s who you are.  “But that’s ridiculous!  That’s impossible! That’s just plain wrong. What about maniacs, and pedophiles, and terrorists?” Jesus, as usual, tells a story.

We call it the Parable of the Unmerciful Servant.  We ought to call it the two-minute reality check. Most of the time, we’re not facing off with evil incarnate. Most of the time, it’s not about abuse or betrayal. Most of the time we’re upset over the moral equivalent of five bucks.

When you get angry, you body releases Adrenaline and Cortisol. When you’re fighting a bear, that’s awesome. Blood pressure, oxygen, and glucose levels jump. All secondary functions, like high-level rational thought, get shunted. Your senses, strength, and reflexes increase and your thoughts are laser focused on what’s immediately in front of you. You fight the bear, run away, and everything goes back to normal. No problem.

But what if you’re not fighting a bear? What if you get angry 14 times a day? What if you live in a near constant state of anger? Your blood pressure never drops. You can’t sleep, but you feel tired all the time. Your memory starts to slip.  Given enough time you will burn out your internal organs and shorten your life. In one study of almost 13,000 subjects, those with the highest levels of anger were three times more likely to have a heart attack, compared to the subjects with the lowest anger levels.

We need to change our perspective. The primary relationship is not between you and some idiot. The primary relationship is between you and God. Once you get the context right, everything else falls into place. What you believe changes your perspective, and your perspective changes how you treat everyone.

Yes, I said everyone. Even Hitler. Even Osama. Even the person that did that truly evil thing that you are still carrying around with you everywhere you go. Now, don’t get your back up. You still have your get out of guilt free card. I said it, and I meant it. This is not about guilt. I like you people, and forgiveness will help you stick around longer. It will also help you solve your problems better.

You know the most insane part of this entire thing? When we’re mad, we feel like we want to kill somebody, they don’t even know. And if they do know, most of them don’t even care! They’re wrong and they’re fine. We’re right, and we’re killing ourselves! How smart is that? Osama is dead. The 9/11 hijackers are dead. And yet a decade later and we still carry the anger and the fear. Brothers and sisters, they are not worthy of that much power. They are not worthy of that much attention. They are not worthy of that victory.

They wanted you dead, so live. They wanted you paralyzed by fear, so move forward. They wanted you enslaved, so be free. Forgiveness does all of those things. It allows you to step out of your anger, back into the land of rational thought that might actually solve the problem.

I just got attacked by a bear. I don’t want that happening again. What should I do now? Maybe I should get out of its den and stop harassing its cubs. Maybe I should build a fence to keep it out of my house. Maybe I should buy and gun and shoot it.

I have no idea. It’s an imaginary bear! But I do know we will never solve the problem as long as we’re stomping around saying, “I can’t believe that bear attacked me!  That’s not fair. Stupid bear.  I hate bears.”  As long as your anger is running your mind, your rational brain is off.

Our greatest enemy is not evil. It is the shortsightedness, apathy, and despair that stops good people from doing what they can to fix real problems. Do not let anger eat you. Let it motivate you. That’s why God gave it to you.

Your emotions are a compass. They point you in a direction. It completely defeats the purpose of the compass to sit in one spot and stare at it. Osama is an excuse. Hitler is a distraction. Because being angry at things lets us avoid the deeper work we need to do. The person we really have a hard time forgiving is… Yes! It doesn’t matter how powerless or innocent we are. We will find a way to make it our fault.

My husband beats me. Well I guess I shouldn’t have made him mad. My wife belittles me, well I guess I shouldn’t be so stupid. My parents got divorced. I guess I should have been a better kid. Someone I love died and I’m still alive. But it should have been me. How in the world do I forgive myself for that?

Remember the parable? The person we’re shaking down for five dollars is us! We are we holding ourselves to a higher standard than God.  God’s Son walked among us, and his consistent message from word one was, “God loves you.” And when we killed him for telling the truth and being good to people, his last words were “Father, forgive them. They don’t know what they do.” Let. It. Go.

Yes, it is hard. Yes, it’s possible. He proved it, and so has every saint through history that followed his example. Forgiveness is a kingdom life skill, and you learn it the same way you learn anything else: by practicing. Change your perspective and practice every day. If you need help getting started, this church is full of people who are willing to annoy you. And the beauty of it is most of them actually mean well, so it’s a great place to begin. Hold onto that card as long as you need it, so you can learn to let it go.

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First preached at First Congregational Church of Saugatuck on September 11, 2011.
Text: Matthew 18:21-35

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